Here fans can post their thoughts on various topics related to Janet Jackson's book, "True You: A Journey of Finding and Loving Yourself".
Topics will be related to different chapters in Janet Jackson's book. Fans are also welcome to write in their thoughts on information they read that relates to the chapter that is being dicussed at the time.
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Quote from Chapter 1- "Breaking Free"...
"So my heart goes out to people who say they work out but still can't lose
weight or who eat very little and yet can't slim down. I know the frustration. I know the sadness". -Janet Jackson
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I can relate to Janet's statement because the size that she was trying to lose in this chapter is the size I am fighting to lose right now. Some days I feel like I am making progress other days I feel like I have gain everything back all over again. I feel like one little bite of something not so healthy for me will just send me over the edge but, one thing is for sure, I am going to lose the weight. -Amber
I can relate to this as well. I don't know how many diet plans I have been on that just don't work for me or how many times I have worked-out and that was not enough. It wasn't until I went to a professional trainer, that I realized that the food I was eating was really making me gain weight instead of losing weight. I was really surprised by what I learned and it has help me make better choices about the food I am eating. -Rachel
I totally get what Janet was saying in this comment. I don't care how much I work out, it seems as if I get bigger. I have always had trouble with my weight no matter how hard I've tried I just seem to not be able to loose it. This has also affected my confidence and self esteem. When people are on the outside looking in, it's easy for them to say your not working hard enough, your eating the wrong things and that is not always the case. I am now back at weight watchers for the fourth time and I hope and pray that it works this time. -Carla
I feel your pain my sisters it is not easy and losing weight can truly be an up heel battle. Some girlfriends and I went to fashion week in NYC and the models that they had walking the runaway don't get me wrong, the clothes were nice but, not realistic to what most women really look like. I saw designers that had more shape than those walking the runaway. It is not easy being a big girl because there is so much pressure to be thin everywhere you look. Can anyone explain to me why designers think that big girls want to wear flower print? I am already a big girl, I don't need to wear clothes that make me look bigger. -Tammi
Quote from Chapter 2: "As Pretty As"...
"Don't compare yourself to anyone else. Comparions are almost always harmful. Comparions mean there's a winner and loser and you're the one who winds up feeling like a loser". -Janet Jackson
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I remember sometimes being compared when I was going up to older family members or friends and it really made me feel sometimes like I was not good enough or it mad me down right mad and I decided to prove to anyone who didn't believe in me that I could hold my own. You find yourself always feeling like you have to measure up to someone and sometimes it can be really overwhelming. Sometimes being the youngest in the family is not easy and certain family members never want you to grow up and be your own person instead of who they think you should
be. It can be tough and to be honest at times it still is but, I am fine with
being me and I now understand that my strength maybe in one thing and my weakness in another but, I am me and that is enough. -Amber
I agree sometimes comparing youself to other people can be very harmful. You have to love yourself from the inside and out and you have to be happy with who you are and don't worry about what other people think of you. You are not going to always fit in everyone's world. -Crystal
You see comparions all the time in the media with celebrities and there is always someone in the media either building up someone or they are destroying them. They are either way too thin or way too
fat. They compare who looks the best wearing the same outfits or the good or bad outfits on the red carpet. Who is or who is not wearing the lastest fashions. It really send the wrong messages to the youth and young adults. -Rachel
Quote from Chapter 11: Young Love...
"It's taken me a lifetime to learn, and to admit it's okay to be confused".
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I have been in relationships before when guys have said to me, that I make the perfect girlfriend. The great girl to take home to mama and meet their friends but, once they learn that I will not make out with them without marriage first, they all go running for the hills. It use to make me sad and I felt like something was wrong with me but, not anymore because I know now that I made the right decision for me by saying no and I don't feel bad for it. -Amber
Some guys can really make you feel low about yourself for not giving it all up to them. I have seen guys get what they want and leave. I have seen a lot of young women my age already being mothers and I don't care what anyone says being a teenage mom or a single mom is not easy and waiting is the best thing to do. -Monica
I am a teenage mom and my baby is the best thing and the hardest thing that has ever happened to me. I wish someone had told me that it was okay to wait a while and that just because you think you really love a person doesn't mean that having a baby will bring you even closer. It is funny how a baby changes the whole out look on your life. I have really grown up to see, that it is not about me anymore and it is about this little person I have brought in the world. One thing is for sure, you can't go back, you can only move forward. -Alexa